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REPORT ON THE TFC’S PRESENTATION AT REDEEMED CHRISTIAN CHURCH OF GOD, BONALOKA DOUALA

DATE : 18TH NOVEMBER, 2018

SPEAKER : DR. FON ELIZABETH

TOPIC : « HOW TO KEEP YOUR SPOUSE INTERESTED IN YOU FOREVER »

The presentation was done during the divine service and was given to Christians of the church under the « Family Clinic » church program which holds every month. Attendance to this presentation can be estimated at 100 persons of different ages and marital status.

The Speaker’s Message

The TESHO program : This program came after the increase in the number of HIV patients from 1 person in 1985 to 160,000 persons, 20 years later. It was noticed that the reasons for most HIV cases were the little misunderstandings in marriage.

The presentation focused on the needs of a man and a woman in marriage – the ‘’3Cs’’ and the ‘’5Ts’’ and other issues that could help in building marriages.

  • WHAT A MAN NEEDS FROM A WOMAN
  • 1.Comprehension: Most women assume that after the wedding ring and after giving birth to children, the marriage is over. In this case, the woman doesn’t make any effort. It is very important for a woman to understand her husband’s inner nature. Understand when he needs space or time alone or when he wants to be with his friends. Women should know that men are childlike in nature. It is very necessary to understand your husband, in order to avoid making hasty conclusions. Understand when he is a small child and boasting for nothing. Sometimes he might exaggerrate, but just understand him. Comprehend your husband’s vision. This is very difficult and entails cleverness.
  • 2.Communication : If you comprehend your husband, you will communicate with him. Women have an atomic bomb in their mouths which if released will destroy the man. Both verbal and non verbal communications can affect a marriage. Non verbal language can minister to a man. No submission and zero communication are very harmful to the marriage.
  • 3.Creativity : A man easily gets bored. Men love variety. Passion and intimacy go down. So lack of creativity can bring the marriage down to zero. Listen to jokes and share with your husband. Be creative in all your dealings with your husband. Get to work and make your team a winning team.
  • WHAT A WOMAN NEEDS FROM A MAN
  • 1.Talking : Women love to talk. Studies have shown that women have double the words that a man has. Talking is very important to her and you have to listen to her. Talking with a spouse is quality talking. Talking about her dreams, her fears, the future, her relationship with her husband constitute the quality talk.
  • 2.Time : Time alone with your wife is very important. It doesn’t need to be expensive. Go out on dates before and after the marriage. Make time for your wife.
  • 3.Touch : A loving touch could be a peck on the cheek, a pat on the back, holding hands, using your feet to touch hers, giving her a ‘’high five’’, giving a hug, to name a few.
  • 4.TESHO lifestyle: Make your wife your coach. Seek her opinion in taking decisions. Introduce your coach to other people with pride. Your actions demonstrate your love.
  • 5.Things : Women want small things that show affection and concern. Not necessarily very big things, but just an effort can make them happy.

CONCLUSION

So if men can offer the five Ts and women offer the three Cs, the marriage is more likely to thrive. Husbands too should work on their sex life. Sex is a beautiful gift given by God to be shared between husband and wife.

Dr. Fon then dwelt on the composition of the family team comprising the husband as the family team captain, the wife as the coach and the kids as the star players.

When it comes to sexuality, she told them there is an important and intimate ‘’match’’ played only by the coach and team captain. She told them it is played only by the coach and team captain. She told them it is played in three phases.

Phase 1 is the warm-up that is important to the woman. She reminded them of the 30/30 rule and advised the team captains not to start the ‘match’ by kicking a penalty.

Phase 2 is the ‘match’ made up of tactical moves and the scoring of the goal.

Phase 3 is the ‘’match’’ analysis where the coach givesthe team captain positive analysis to help him prepare for the next ‘’match’’.

QUESTIONS (a few sample questions from the close to 25 questions asked by participants)

  • 1.How can someone maintain a distance relationship ?
  • ØHave uplifting words for each other and avoid quarrels, since the relationship is very delicate.
  • 2.What is the role of sex in marriage ?
  • ØVery important
  • 3.What advice will you give to a couple where one partner is HIV positive and the other is not ?
  • ØThey will have a wonderful relationship. No problem at all. Read the book ‘’A great husband for a great wife’’ for more.

REMARKS

The presentation was very successful, with people willing to visit the center to get answers to their questions. This is a great experience for TFC. You too can invite the TFC for an uplifting presentation. Call 677603939 or 673585858 or send an email to hellodr@tesho.org

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